Dating in Your 30s? You Need These Crucial Tips


Dating is hard at any age, but entering a new decade introduces a whole new set of nuances. If you thought you finally nailed the dating game in your 20s, it might feel frustrating and overwhelming once you hit 30. The truth is dating in your 30s is very different from dating in your 20s. But while there may be some negatives, there are tons of positives.

On one hand, the playing field is narrower and you probably carry more baggage than you did the decade prior. You may have had your heart broken and developed some trust issues, for example, or you could be more devoted than ever to a career. You also may have fewer single friends, so there's more pressure to couple up. However, you also have more life experience. You probably have a better idea of what you're going to focus on in life, what type of environment you want to live in, whether or not you want to have children, etc. It's more likely, then, that you'll seek out a partner with similar goals and lifestyle habits rather than date around just for the experience.

"Dating in your 20s can be a bit like the scattered light of a disco ball, whereas dating in your 30s is more like a focused laser beam," says Jordan Gray, a relationship coach and bestselling author. "If you know what you're looking for, you'll waste less time on relationships that have no potential and optimize for healthy, aligned connections with that much more speed and ease."

Meet the Expert

Jordan Gray is the author of six bestselling books on relationships, a public speaker, and a sex and relationship coach with more than 10 years of experience.

If you've recently become single or just turned 30 and are noticing how dating has changed, don't stress. We've got some crucial tips to help you thrive while dating in your 30s, straight from an expert.

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